The Confident Kill

The dating game is also something of a daring game, and what you need to do is to know when, how, why and what to do to get the most out of it. Everyone is involved in the dating game, whether or not you know it. You suck in your gut when an attractive woman walks by, and for the fairer sex, you brush your hair and give them the best angle you got when the stud walks by you. It is something that is in built in us and you cannot deny it.

Say you are single and you need to find a date as soon as possible, or you have been noticing someone at the other side of your morning cafe; and you are at a loss at what to do. They are there for a good 20 minutes any time, but you never find the correct time to actually approach them. What do you do and how do you go about doing it? For one thing, you need to be able to overcome your fear because fear is something that you wear over your face and anyone can see it. You need to be confident. Let us be honest, there is no such thing as perfect timing.

There is only timing and conditions. For one thing, your timing needs to be right. You cannot be approaching them when they are busy on the phone or they are on a conference call with some client that is giving them a hard time. Make sure that they are at ease for one thing, and look at their body language, because that is the most important time. Make sure that they are not in a bad mood and you can actually spot this pretty easy. Are they curt with the hired help? Do they wear their anger on their sleeve? If they are beating up the complimentary biscuits and tearing into their croissants, then you need to know that this is not the day you should be approaching them.

Do one thing and one thing only, you need to be able to maintain eye contact for at least a brief period of time. This way, you can tell whether or not you have the amber light or not. Amber, not green. Just because they smile back at you or they smile with their eyes on you, does not mean that you are in it to win it. It only means that you have assessed their predisposition, you know that they are friendly and more likely than not, you are going to be able to at least strike up a conversation with them. This is when you should be going in for the kill. You need to know when to move in and make your move. Bad timing is the cause of many rejections, and if you want to get out of there with at least a number, you need to know what to do.