The Golden Rule?
You’ve heard the golden rule, right? “Treat others the way you want to be treated.” Well, I don’t necessary agree with this rule. I think you should treat people the way "THEY" want to be treated.
For example: If you were a masochist (a person who enjoys pain) would you inflict pain on someone who didn’t enjoy pain? Would you enjoy being teased, would you tease someone who didn’t enjoy being teased?
You see, there is a flaw in the golden rule. In these examples, you wouldn’t make a friend or bond with a person if you treated them the way you enjoyed being treated. Granted, these are extreme examples.
You can reverse the role too. What if you enjoyed being treated with kindness and respect? However, you met a girl who enjoyed being treated with disrespect or liked being abused?
Believe me, there are girls out there like that. Understand? If it’s not in your character to be mean to a person, it would probably be difficult to do.
You’ve heard of girls who say, “He’s a nice guy, matter of fact too nice.” Some girls don’t respect a man who they can walk on. Some girls are actually seeking a daddy figure in their man.
They like to be told what to do and how to do it. They enjoy a man to take control and will say NO! Many men want to please a woman so much, they become a YES man. Again, believe or not, some women don’t like a YES man and they don’t want control.
I use to know this very sexy girl. We were lovers. I knew her character. Every time she would ask for something. I would immediately say “No!”. She would stick her lip out and pout, then we would have mad passionate sex together.
She really didn’t want everything she asked for, it was usually just a test to see if I would do it. She actually wanted to hear the word, NO.
Another girl I knew. She liked being in control. Everything had to be her way. It was the way she was geared. The more I battled her, the less we had sex. So, I simply allowed her to have just enough control to make her “feel” she was in control.
I made sure I asked simple things like, would you like cream with your coffee? Would you like to be on bottom or top tonight? When I allowed her to make some simple basic decisions she was in heaven and we had the best sex.
So, again, I think it’s important to treat “girls” the way they want to be treated, not necessarily the way YOU want to be treated.
Leave Your Egos Outside...
Have you ever noticed that men and women inside clubs or other single hang outs are out to lunch or in LaLa land? The next time you’re out, notice how most of the people act like they have all the confidence in the world and “act” like they have potential dates lined up whenever they want them.
Actually, this is not confidence it’s called arrogance. Whenever a person acts better than you it’s because they feel less than you. They are trying to convince you they are better; however, they know they are not.
Why do they do this?
It’s a wall for their protection. They want to meet others, but they are afraid they will disappoint the other person once they know who they really are.
Also, when you look around, you see a little chit chat, some dancing and some laughter. However, for the most part, you see many people doing nothing. They are not talking, they are not smiling and they are not meeting anyone. And for most people, that’s exactly why they are there!
You see, clubs and single hang-outs are full of lonely people who are starved for affection. However, they act like they could have any man or woman they want. In reality, most do not have anyone to call or to spend time with.
Many of the ladies are bored with their life and that’s why they go out. Don’t let the girls fool you. They are out to meet men. Or why would they be there? Some will tell you, they come to dance. Yeah, right! If you believe that line, then you’ll believe anything.
Trying to meet and spend time getting to know sexy beautiful girls in a club is NOT the right place to do it. Her defenses are up and you usually will not get very far. Besides, most very pretty girls have low self-esteem. Most don’t like themselves.
Why? Because many of the sexiest ladies in your area are never told of their beauty by men and most feel like men just want them for their body and not for her. Average looking women are complimented much more than the sexy ones are.
Men are not as intimidated by average looking women. If the truth was to be known, average looking women get more dates and more sex than the sexy good looking girls do.
Why? Because most men think the sexy ones are complimented all the time, have plenty of dates and being complimented is probably old news to them. So, the sexiest ladies receive few compliments from men and less attention.
Oh, men compliment very sexy girls to other men, and the girlfriends of the girls dish them compliments, but sexy girls are seldom complimented by men.
Sexy beautiful girls are usually the easiest girls to talk with out side of a meat market atmosphere. Why? Because they know the clubs are some-what of a pick up bar and they don’t want to appear to be that way to their friends or to others. So, this is why there is so much “game” playing in clubs.
Everyone is trying to convince each other they are not there to meet someone. Nobody wants to admit they are not loved or cared about. So, either “he” acts like the stud of the year or “she” acts like she is not interested because she has every man in town wanting her and you’re just another MAN.
What happens? Nothing! Everyone has spent a few bucks to get in the door, a few bucks on drinks, many people get drunk and then most people go home alone.
Yes, even the big studs standing at the bar and most of the sexiest girls walk out alone. The following weekend everyone repeats their attitude and they do it all over again.
If men and women would just leave their silly “egos” at the door before walking inside a club, then people would get real and do exactly what they went their to do. Most men and women are there to meet someone of the opposite sex with the hopes of developing some kind of honest communication.
The men who usually get rejected are those who are rude and arrogant. Sometimes the booze has something to do with it. If men would stop and think before they say, then maybe…just maybe he could get some type of rapport with the woman of his choice. Also men were not intimidated by girls, then most men would certainly meet more ladies.
However, I’ve seen the most sincere men get rejected in single clubs. It’s a confusing place. Girls just don’t know if the sincere remarks are honest or a pick up line. Trying to sell yourself in a singles club is almost impossible unless the woman is all about looks, money and what you drive.
These types of girls are usually very shallow and often used by men who have those things. These types of girls are usable and want to be used. They are victims of their own materialistic desires.
Within a few years, these types of girls become bitter towards men and they are all used up. I call them “damaged” goods.
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