Only couples with a deep feeling of emotional security or deep “commitment” will survive the swinging lifestyle. Trust is often built by using the “tried and tested” rule. The couple is tested over and over again. Only with “Trust” will a couple ever avoid the pain and the hurt of jealousy.
What situations should you avoid? What are the activities that are not considered "swinging"? When men and women are single and dating, they usually are seeking a relationship. Single dating is not swinging, no matter how many partners you experience. The mission of dating is usually to find someone with whom you want to build a safe secure lifelong relationship.
If you’re married and have a string of affairs- this is NOT swinging. The relationship with the other person requires involvement, promises and some level of commitment which, in turn, competes with the relationship you have with your primary partner.
If you're single and dating several people, or married and having an affair, neither can be considered swinging. Likewise, those who have an open marriage are not considered swingers because they indulge in separate activities away from their partner.
In an open marriage, each party enjoys the privilege of being single, including private dating with permission from the other. Swinging couples DO NOT want open marriages and they do not look for secret affairs. If they did, then they would not be swingers. Understand? Swinging couples experience their sexual fantasies and sexual experience with others while enjoying the security of their partner in the same room or location.
Swingers choose to avoid that risk of open marriages and prefer to only experience their sexual variety together. That way it is fun, honest and adventurous. Plus it enhances their closely bonded relationship. In fact, swinging provides a safe alternative to cheating, avoids guilt trips and complications that cheating and open marriages usually give.
Swinging is a shared activity enjoyed by a couple who are committed to keeping their relationship intact. They do it together, at the same time and at the same location, although not necessarily in the same room.
The key to successful swinging is to play without getting “emotionally” involved with another person. You simply have a great time and “play” as well as you can, then disconnect and go home with your primary partner.
Swing partners may be in a "3rd wheel" while enjoying a threesome scenario, but more typically most couples prefer other couples so both can participate.
A couple arrives at a club, party or liason together, they will leave together, and by all means they will always sleep together. Swinging couples never sleep with their “play” sex partners. Everyone knows this could cause confusion and is not appropriate within the swinging community.
Swinging is about recreational friendly sex. Swinging is about protecting your relationship - never purposely risking it.
We read in the newspapers day after day about prominent people; ranging from ministers to U.S. Senators, celebrities even schoolteachers who are caught engaging in extramarital affairs. These people are usually fine upstanding citizens with wives (or husbands) and families. If a husband or wife lives out their sexual fantasy without the consent of their spouse, then it's usually done in secret.
Nobody in the community cares if a single person has a variety of sexual partners. Even the courts do not care how many adult lovers a person experiences. But when one partner of a married couple has extramarital adventures behind the spouses back, then society has a unique word to describe it: It’s called CHEATING.
Traditional married couples have a whopping 52% divorce rate while swinging couples have a very low 1.5% divorce rate. Pretty amazing, huh?
Swinging couples utilize their close bond and enjoy the swinging lifestyle and therefore do not require a need “Cheat”. It's a private way for couples to enjoy sexual variety while preserving their personal and valued relationship. Most swinging couples within the community have a healthy out-look concerning their partner and the swinging lifestyle. Sexual variety means exactly that, a variety of at least several other partners in a fun, light, social recreational relationship.
It’s perfectly fine to fall-in-lust for an hour or two with another person. Afterwards, you and your partner will dance off into the night while once again building the "trust" that bonds you together in a loving relationship.
*Swinging couples never need to live a life of deceit or lies.
*Swinging couples never need to have sneaky affairs.
*Swinging couples never have to fight about jealousy.
A swinging couple's relationship never needs to be threatened. Their entire sexy life is upfront and in total view of the other partner.
Playing with others can also put a spark in your own lovemaking with your primary partner. Your “trust” in each other actually builds after each experience. The relationship not only remains intact, it grows stronger. Now you have an exciting activity you can totally share and both look forward to experiencing together.
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