How to Find Out If Someone is Married Before You Go Too Far

Some databases aren't just for law enforcement offices anymore

Finding a partner that's right for you can sometimes be a very difficult task. Meeting new people has been made a lot easier now that you can use the Internet to find friends and dates but it's still as hard as it's ever been to find someone that's right for you. One of the biggest problems you face when dating someone new is making sure that your friend is genuine and not telling you a pack of lies about who he is and where he comes from. Here are a few tips that might help you to tell if someone is lying and how to find out if someone is married before you start to get serious about the relationship.

First ask them straight out if they are married

This is obvious right? But have you actually asked the question or have you just been assuming that they can't possibly be married if they are looking to date other people? Wrong - people have affairs and cheat on their spouse or partner all the time. Ask the question if you want to find out if someone is married and notice how they answer it. Sometimes it isn't what they say but how they say it. If they become agitated or defensive or get nervous then maybe they have something that they would rather not tell you. If you don't ask them the right question then you are letting them off so don't let him get away with it.

If you have ever tried to keep a secret from someone then you probably know how hard it can be. If you have to tell a lie to keep that secret then it gets much harder. Especially if you have to keep up that lie for any length of time. You can use this fact to catch a liar out if you ask the right questions and pay close attention to what you are told.

I always say that you only have to find one lie, it doesn't matter what it is but if they can lie to you about anything then how can you trust anything else that they tell you? You can use this to your advantage. Ask your new friend about themselves, where do they come from? what do they do? are they married? It's just all the stuff that new friends or lovers should be talking about to get to know each other. Always be on the lookout for things that don't sound quite right. You will probably know them when they crop up if you are paying attention.

If you do notice discrepancies or contradictions then ask your friend to clarify it for you. If you don't get satisfactory answers then I suggest that you simply walk away and don't waste any more of your time on them.

Do some detective work

If you want to know how to find out if someone is married without actually talking to them then there are ways that you can use. If you know where they are most likely to have got married then you can go to the local records office and make an enquiry. This is not difficult to do but you have no guarantee that they didn't get married somewhere else. It just isn't practical for you to ask in every state records office but you could hire a private detective to do the work for you if you have enough money to spare.

The easy online method of finding out if someone is married

Until very recently it would not have been practical for you to do a background search on someone to find out if they are married or not by yourself. The only people that were able to attempt it were law enforcement officers and licensed private investigators. Things have changed since then and wow, how they have changed.

There are now web sites that gather all the publicly available information that they can find from sources all over and put it all into a database that you can access. You can use one of these public records database web sites to do a background check on your friend and find out if there's a record of marriage in there. It's not guaranteed to be perfect but they are collecting information every day. If it's something that you could have found out yourself if you only knew where to look then it's probably in a public records database.