As a single dad, it can be hard to find time to date and hopefully meet someone special. You can try online dating and blind dates, but still not find what you are looking for. Nowadays there are many singles events that are taking place for those who are looking for fun or a long-term relationship can meet face-to-face. There are single meet-ups, single cruises and speed dating. Speed dating is the newest wave to hit the singles scene.
The way it works is you register and pay a small fee to the speed dating organization of your choice. Once paid there are several nights that you can select from. When you arrive, there will be anywhere from 8-20 members of the opposite sex that you will have the chance to meet. With each member you will spend around 3-8 minutes asking questions and basically having fun, at the end of the timer, you meet the next person. After each session you will have a card with the person's name on it, if you like a certain individual you will mark them in the appropriate space on your card. At the end of the night all cards from all participants are turned in. If two people expressed mutual interest, the speed dating planners will send both of you each other's contact information.
If you have never heard of speed dating or have attended a singles event, it can be intimidating. But there isn't any true need to worry, below are some tips that will help you succeed and have a night of your life when attending a speed dating function.
1. Dress nicely. Many times these speed dating events take place in nice restaurants and lounges. You don't have to go all out; a nice shirt and slacks should be fine. And don't forget the cologne!
2. Smile. You won't be the only who may feel nervous, if you can put the other ladies at ease with a nice, welcoming smile, they will be thankful.
3. Have fun. Sure your goal is to meet women, in hopes that you can get to know them more personally. But if you go in with just the thought that you are going to have fun, it will ease the pressure that you have to make women like you. Have fun and be you - some lucky lady will see that you are a catch.
4. Listen. When you are spending time with the women, make sure that you listen attentively to any questions they have or answers they may give.
5. Drink, but not too much! Some people need a little "liquid courage" to open up. That's fine and understandable. Though make sure you don't drink to the point to where you become drunk. You don't want to be remembered as the drunken guy.
6. Ask questions, as long as they are not too personal. Speed dating is not set-up to ask the serious questions like, "Do you ever want to get married?" "Was your last ex a jerk?" Speed dating is to see if there is chemistry between two people.
7. Don't bring in a laundry list. Also you want to avoid asking the cliché' questions. "What do you do for a living?" instead "If you could be any animal which one would you choose and why?" or "What's your favorite movie, book, genre of music, etc.?"
8. Don't be afraid to flirt. Women can quickly put a man in the "friend" category. To avoid this, a little light innocent flirting will work wonders.
9. Have confidence. Confidence is the single most attractive trait that women find in men.
10. And lastly, a few days have passed and you received contact from the speed dating organizers of women who have expressed mutual interest. When you go to contact them, a brief email saying hello, how you enjoyed meeting her and expressed interest in meeting again in the future should suffice. After that, simply wait. If she is worth it, she will contact you and two can hopefully began a long and prosperous love affair.
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